When you have been dropped by a lover it hurts mentally and depresses you but if the breakup is very unexpected it can cause acute physical pain. You body reacts to the stress of your mind. It is very hard to cope with.
It also hurts when you are unable to find a friend/lover that completes you. People tend to be so attracted to physical looks rather than the beauty inside. They don't take the time to see it.
It also hurts when you are unable to find a friend/lover that completes you. People tend to be so attracted to physical looks rather than the beauty inside. They don't take the time to see it.
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Re: It hurts to be alone
Sun, January 28, 2007 - 3:14 PMThe grief period goes on for at least six months, the person with the loss must deal with the grief and it doesn't just go away. During this period it is unlikely that you will find a compatable person (the person would be on the rebound if he did). That doesn't mean you can't have relationships on a short term to ease the pain, but you must complete the grief prior to being ready to handle another long term relationship. One must try to learn NOT to carry bad baggage into another relationship! -
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Re: It hurts to be alone
Mon, January 29, 2007 - 9:06 PMCan I get a "Hades YES" to that.
I'd say I've spent the better part of 6 yrs learning to "let go" of old wounds. Nowadays when I think about the past hurts, it doesn't hurt because I did give myself permission to mourn.
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Re: It hurts to be alone
Wed, March 28, 2007 - 9:27 AMno... carry the baggage and live on--the person you are closet too (speaking to everyday/in detail about issues) "is" that companion. Everything is right in front of you... God would never leave you lonely or confused, it is our attachment that compels to hold on to the physical realm as the spiritual realms moves in ways the physical realm cannot--causing the feeling 'why am I in pain,' well garanteed your 'lover' is the person (any person) who understands you the most. If that was a cracked-out rebuttle then that ass is hot! ~kisses
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Re: It hurts to be alone
Wed, March 28, 2007 - 12:46 PMEveryone over a few relationships will have "baggage". It's life experiences that we learn from, and lets us know whether we'll be ok or not about situations that arise in the future. Others may say "oh you're sensitive to that because of an ex", and they're right, but you actually just now know who you are, and what shit you won't put up with. This can be a good thing.
What's not good is to be forever comparing someone new to someone old. I found it useful to remind myself that I would not want to be compared to a previous ex of someone, so I should not do the same to them.
On "at least six months", I believe different people heal at different rates, depending on how much you had emotionally invested into someone, and how much of an emotional or logical thinker you are.
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